This week I had a young man tell me that his soon to be mother-in-law didn’t want him to marry her daughter. I asked why, “He said, she still sees me like the old person I use to be”.
A few months back, this young man began to recognize things in him that he was no longer happy with. He began to focus on those areas and began to create change little by little.
When your in transition and someone still sees or remembers you as that old self that can be discouraging. No matter what you say they still define you as who they once knew. Which is understandable because they have never met the new you!
I know there are areas in my life that I struggle with and that I am working on. Some days are harder than others but I continue to press toward the goal.
Self reflection: Are there areas in your life that you are struggling with? That you no longer want it to define you as. Let’s hone in one thing at a time!
I said to this young man, “You do not have to prove that your a changed man. Allow others to see your behaviors and actions of who you have become”. Watch your thoughts and attitudes in your mind and continue to throw off the old self when it tries to creep back in and embrace the new self!
The key is continuing to move forward even if your afraid of embarking on the new you that you have never met. But do it, even if your doing it afraid!
In order to be world changers it has to begin within us. Here is quote I want to leave you with:
You can’t go back and change the beginning but you can start where you are and change the ending- C.S. Lewis
What is a coach? It is a coach who comes alongside you to see you where you are at and help you get to where you want to be.
I recall watching a commercial with a well-known basketball player and thinking, “He was not always a great basketball player”. He had to work with someone behind the scenes that showed him different techniques and calling out some of the areas where growth needed to take place in. The coach had to come alongside the basketball player on the sidelines and outside the games calling out different plays to conduct and not conduct while being in and out of the game. Even the best experts utilize a Coach. A coach will listen to your story without feeling judged, criticized and provided the greatest support during those hard times.
We all have blind spots in our lives that we are unaware of and need some guidance in. In having coach or accountability partner, they help in areas that are challenging and approach beliefs that are crippling one from making genuine connections and have fulfilling relationships. They help individuals to gain the courage, strength and discover some of the passions and gain the confidence needed in overcoming life challenges that come unexpectedly.
A coach helps to work on self-confidence and explore obstacles that have kept an individual stuck and has enabled them in believing that they can move forward. Especially if you have not identified them as blind spots or mental blocks. With Coaching one can explore many different topics like personal goals and/or professional goals. It is not just about dealing with the past but closing the gap of where one is currently at and where you would like to be in your ideal self. Together creating an action plan that the individual and the coach are held accountable to fulfill and achieve those goals.
When your sitting down with someone who is a coach or is holding you accountable that person is able to examine where you are at and learn what patterns have been good for you and not. Honing in and taking a look at some of the life challenges and misunderstandings about yourself and others. That has occurred throughout life and learn to follow through in trusting yourself to revisit those areas. A coach helps with your personal life, goal setting, and dealing with life challenges. It helps an individual to get unstuck and create healthy habits, as well as learning how to have fun, unleash the gifts within you, and improve relationships. Furthermore, it helps create awareness in identifying your life purpose and reaching your goals.
People that have chosen to have a Coach have been successful in life because they have chosen to do something different and together brainstorm and create a plan that will lead them to become a better individual.
The role of a Coach is to help provide the tools needed to help achieve goals and carry out the vision for yourself at the same time holding you accountable. It is a great resource to utilize that allows an individual to move forward in life where the life coach is there to motivate and supports individuals that face roadblocks along the way. Everyone has life challenges but it is what you do with them that matters. With each challenge, there is always a solution that eventually becomes part of your story.
Where we get to explore and face those areas of life that have been challenging and help shape you into a stronger, healthier and empower the person within you. It is a place where we provide the tools to help empty the garbage out. The goal is to gain new tools to deal with life challenged one has experienced as well as prepare you to cope effectively with the stresses and challenges that life brings.
Do you want to achieve happiness and true fulfillment in your personal life? Do you want to begin let go of any fears and concerns? It is time to seek after a coach or accountability partner, as we all need in our lives.