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The Tyrant

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Have you ever looked back at the medieval days and been so fascinated by the ruler over their kingdom. I love the way they align themselves up for battle. Anything that stepped foot on their territory, they were armed and ready. One of my favorite movies is Troy. This movie portrays the struggle between the ancient kingdoms of Troy and Sparta. I love watching the different rulers and how they govern their empire.

There is a part in the movie where the city is celebrating and the night comes. Everything seems to be quiet, and then Achilles, Odysseus, and a small group of Greek soldiers emerge and slay several guards and open Troy’s gates. The Greek army quickly pours into the city, burning homes and killing any Trojan who stands in their way while Priam can only watch. The soldiers of Troy attempt to defend the royal palace but fail. Typically there is always a greedy, cruel tyrant in these movies. In Troy, it was Agamemnon. His brutal nature nearly leads to the destruction of his men and the loss of a war. Tyrants are willing to sacrifice others for their wants and are very fearful of losing their power.

Have you ever been in a place in your life where things were going well, and all of a sudden, you found yourself threatened and unguarded?
Like the story of Troy, there was a cruel tyrant that came in, whether it was in your mind, heart, and soul. Where it decided that it was going to go and destroy every bit of your kingdom, these tyrants can be a fear of failure, low self-esteem, bitterness, disbelief, and even unforgiveness. It continues to throw darts at all times and begin to govern your kingdom.

One of the tyrants that have come in and out of my life has been fear of failure. Every so often, that tyrant comes in at odd hours of the night and throws its deadly missiles. Trying to destroy everything that I have worked towards and set out to do. That tyrant comes when life seems out of control or when something doesn’t go as planned.

I’m amazed by how many thoughts come through our minds thinking to the point that we feel like we’re bleeding out. Where we can’t feel or have become numb to certain things in our lives because we have allowed a tyrant to govern our kingdom.

It happens to the best of us even when our life is going great. All it takes is that one tyrant to come through and can quickly destroy the kingdom, especially if you’re not awake and watching them as they arrive or as they are coming in and out. The enemy is very strategic in what he does and thinks things through.

What is your tyrant that continues to bombard and dominate your kingdom? Our kingdom is our heart, mind, and soul. What remains governing you that is stopping you from walking in your purpose and calling? Take some time today and reflect. Be on the lookout, gear up, identify the tyrants, and destroy it. Chop it off by its head, and do not allow it to come back into your kingdom. Be a watchman on the wall.

I hope you are enjoying reading this post if someone came to mind as you were reading this, please feel to share it with them! Could you help me, help others along the way? You never know who needs to hear this today that may be struggling and is needing one good thing to happen to them today. This could be a tool of encouragement and bring hope back into their situation. Please help me to continue to breathe hope one life at a time!

Carriers of Hope,

Sandy Cortes

Breathing Hope One one Life at a Time!

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What road are you on?

I like having control over things, like what my upcoming weeks look like or knowing when and how I am going to handle a particular project. Or how to get my kids or husband to get them to do something I want them to do. I can predict the outcome and prepare accordingly for attitudes and negotiation and even compromising. Yet there have been other things that I had no control over. I have mentored and counseled many individuals throughout life. But, how about when you can not control an unexpected issue like a terrible break-up, a divorce of a couple, a severe illness, a loss of a job, or a loss of a loved one. Listen to the news and hear all the things that are taking place in our day to day society. But what do you do when it happens and it mainly affects you?

I woke up thinking about the tragic accident that took place yesterday with Kobe Bryant, his daughter Gianna and the other six passengers. I am a mother and wife, and my heart hurts for those families. I think of the call that was made to his wife and envision what may have gone through her mind to not only receive the news of her husband but then in the very next breath hearing that her daughter passed away too — the same with the other families. Life will never be the same for them. A part of them will be missing that will not be given back. I have no relationship with any of these individuals. However, I know the pain of losing a loved one. My heart and prayer go out to the families.

How does one deal when you receive news like this? How does one deal with all the emotions that come from those situations of trauma or tragedy?

With my own experiences, I recall being so angry when I got the news of good friends of ours that were killed by a drunk driver and when my mother passed away from cancer. Devastation kicked in, and I had all these mixed emotions. I did not know how to process what was said, yet let alone how does one grieve, and go back to day to day life without that person no longer being in their life. How does one hold and process everything that they are feeling, thinking, and wishing it was a bad nightmare? Then evenutally coming to terms, and realizing that it happened and that those loved ones are not coming back.

I wish I had those answers on what to do. I know for me, I was in a state of shock, and the world stopped at that moment. Nothing else mattered, and nothing could soothe the pain of losing someone you love. Then all the should of, could of the sit-in and you try to remember the last conversation or last thing said. For me, it took many years to talk about what happened, I went through a dark time of being depressed. I do not know if it was that I was just not ready to procesd and/or just trying to survive, in denial, or just not go there because of the pain I felt. Eventually, I had to learn to go to that place of torment. I am one who, when I begin to cry, and I am trying to express myself, all I can do is cry, and there goes the end of that conversation. That when I finally do share, it is ugly and hard. Yet it is therapeutic; it didn’t make the people I love come back but help soothe and made it easier to process the emotions I felt.

I have learned the importance of accountability. Yes, I did say accountability. It is going to require you to speak about those things that have occurred throughout life. You are not truly going to know how to process or handle what has happened. Having someone in your life helps hold your challenges, and that will guide and be there with you through the aftermath. Many times the risk of being accountable and authentic is hard for individuals. Being on the receiving side at times, we feel that we have to have the right words or have to say something, but it is okay to sit and just listen. Just being there for that individual can bring healing to their life. But one of the things that can help me help others is putting myself in their shoes and being in that moment per say in what they are vocalizing.

Beloved, I am not sure what you are facing today, I am hoping that you would be ready and open to share those hard places of your life. Reflecting on the importance of going to a friend or relative or yes, a counselor/therapist. That you feel you can share that brave space with and share your pain and sufferings with is so therapeutic. It is the first step forward in beginning your healing process. There is not a timeline of when to no longer hurt and mourn over the loved ones you have lost. Embrace each day as it comes. I know when the holidays come, I often think of my loved ones and become sad, and I embrace it and I know there in a much better place than I am. From these hardships, I have learned that life is too short and learning to be present at the moment with those loved ones that are still here. Life goes by very quickly.

There was a meta anayalis done and it stated, “The average person who received therapy is better off at the end of it than 80% of those who do not”. This is something I can vouch for as I have taken therapy and believe in it. It has help me to cope and heal and given me tools to utlize when those unexpected things come up. So take time out today and make that call and share those things that are holding you back and/or that have been hard to deal with. I promise you will not regret it!

Carriers of Hope,

Sandy Cortes

Breathing Hope One Life at a Time!